Recent research shows that marriage-every good marriage- is built on self-sacrifice

“Recent research shows that marriage-every good marriage- is built on a thousand small acts of self-sacrifice. Gym nights are given up, lunches are “brown-bagged” to save money, household chores like laundry and cleaning are shared. Such gestures may seem trivial and unimportant, but each involves a sacrifice of “me” to “us,” in marriage. And as the frequency of these acts grow, they draw the husband and wife closer together. The stepfamily provides more opportunities for such acts. A dozen situations each day give one partner an opportunity to show the other in deed as well as in word how much the marriage and stepfamily mean to him or her.” From the book Step Families: Love, Marriage and Parenting in the First Decade by Dr. James H. Bray and John Kelly